Your handwriting. The way you walk. Which china pattern you choose. It's all giving you away. Everything you do shows your hand. Everything is a self-portrait. Everything is a diary.
-Chuck Pahlaniuk Diary:A Novel

Monday, February 9, 2009

The China Question

A few weeks ago I was offered a gig in China with a friend of mine who sings and plays piano. The gig is in a Four Seasons near Hong Kong, the pay is decent with the perk being that all meals, internet, dry cleaning, etc. are covered. It would be six nights a week, three hours a night playing at the hotel bar. The gig itself would be pretty sweet. But there's a catch, it is for four months from May through August.

I agonized over the decision. It would be really great for us to bank all of that money (times are lean for everyone these days and musicians are no exception, why not make some dough in another country?) and the music would be a lot of fun. Of course the major drawback would have been missing my family but Carrie and Milo could go to Indiana for nice long visit and we could Skype, I would also be missing some Tyrell gigs but getting them covered shouldn't be a problem. I didn't know what to do. I kept thinking "I will have serious regrets whichever decision I make." I'm very lucky to be able to play music full-time but decisions like this are what make the career difficult. I decided that I was approaching it with the wrong mindset and instead told myself "whichever decision I make will be the right one." I decided to take the gig.

Then things changed. The gig was moved up and no longer started in May but started in mid-March. This would mean that Carrie and Milo could not go back to Indy as she would be working the entire time and I would be missing even more work with Tyrell. It was a sign. I told my friend I could not do the gig. She really wanted me to do it and tried to work around my schedule asking the agency putting the whole thing together if I could do part of the gig, only two of the months, but it didn't work out.

This decision made last week quite a roller-coaster but it all worked out for the best in the end. There will be another opportunity like this in the future that will work better for us. Until then, I'll just keep doing the L.A. hustle.


KHM said...

Way to roll with it, Lyman. Good call.

Special K said...

ah well. whaddyagonnado?

Anonymous said...

I woulda went to China.....if you can't be super famous in the states I say let the millions in China love you. Oh well China will just have to wait.

Cuz, PK

Lyman said...

Ha! I don't know what's worse, not being famous or my son forgetting who the hell I am.

Bluervo said...

I think it was a good call. It will always work out in the end. I'm thinking of auditioning for this Disney gig at Tokyo Disney. However, I couldn't stand being gone for 6 months away from my wife. I think I'm going to audition anyway, just to see how it goes.

Anonymous said...

I don't know man...all that free Chinese food, hard to pass up. I kid I kid.


KHM said...

Sure, world travel, great money, good fun represent exciting opportunities. I know lots of people who think that spending time playing, loving with, caring for your family is as well.

Opportunities to travel will present themselves from time to time and you have always been exceptionally well prepared to make the most of those. As hard as it may be to believe, the time with Milo and Carrie as a young family is likely a much more rare, and fleeting, opportunity.

Kona Gramps said...

when you have to agonize so much, "it wasn't meant to be".